Tuesday's topic stems from a conversation that The Premier Joven blog had with a young lady a while back. You see, her man of 6 or so months had "cheated" on her she claimed. His defense was simply this: "We never said we were boyfriend or girlfriend!" Genuinely hurt and confused she argued they did all the stuff "couples" do which led us to ask; At what point during the dating process is coupledom negotiated and confirmed. Is it after 4 dinner dates? Perhaps it's when you wake up next to each other, breath funky wearing each other's dirty clothes that you become the 09 Bonnie and Clyde? Or maybe it's when you introduce one another to momma and dem? Could it be a relationship is cemented after the first trip together beyond the nice restaurant on the outskirts of town? Oh love and relationships can be a complicated thing. The days of the letters that had check "yes" or "no" were so much simpler. Please discuss.......
I think communication is key. Sometimes guys don't choose to be the smartest specimen and since, as ladies, we know that, we also know that we need to communicate with our men. Let them know how we are feeling, no matter how big or small...it's valid. I think coupledom is confirmed when you are ready to confirm it. Everybody rolls differently, I am not sure there can be a set time. It will never be simple, just make sure to always protect and defend yourself. My mother always told me, "There's nothing like a good understanding."
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